مادر به خطا (Madar ba khata)
What does مادر به خطا (Madar ba khata) mean? مادر به خطا (Madar ba khata) is a Dari strong that translates to “bastard / illegitimate / mistake child” in English.
Literal Translation
mother to error / mother who made a mistake
Meaning & Usage
"bastard / illegitimate / mistake child"
The euphemistic way of saying someone was born from their mother's 'mistake' — meaning an extramarital affair or premarital sex. The 'mistake' is pregnancy outside of marriage, and the child is the living evidence of that mistake. Cruder than 'haramzada' (born of sin) in some ways because it's more specific and personal.
Examples in the Wild
معلوم نیست پدرش کیست، مادر به خطا است. (Maloom nist pedaresh kist, madar ba khata ast. - Nobody knows who his father is, he's a mistake-child.) — Vicious gossip.
When to Use It
Context
- Informal settings where profanity is accepted
- Expressing strong frustration or emphasis
- Direct confrontation (use with caution)
Avoid
- Professional or formal settings
- Around elders or authority figures
- Mixed company or unfamiliar social groups
- Job interviews, meetings, or customer-facing situations
Cultural Context
Note: this is distinct from 'madar khata' which already exists in the seed file. 'Madar ba khata' uses the full prepositional phrase and has a slightly different nuance — emphasizing the mother's agency in the 'error' rather than just the child's illegitimate status. In Afghan gossip culture, this phrase is whispered about children whose parentage is questionable — the village knows, nobody says it publicly, but 'madar ba khata' is the phrase that circulates.
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