بی‌شرم (Bi sharm)

biː ʃærminsult

What does بی‌شرم (Bi sharm) mean? بی‌شرم (Bi sharm) is a Dari moderate that translates to “shameless / brazen” in English.

without shame

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"shameless / brazen"

Sharm and haya are often used interchangeably, but sharm is the Persian word while haya is Arabic. Bi sharm has a slightly more secular, cultural feel than bi haya's religious undertone. Someone who is bi sharm does things openly that should be done in private — brags about money, flirts publicly, or disrespects elders without blinking.

شرمت نمیشه؟ آدم کلان استی! (Sharmet nemisha? Adam kalan asti! - Aren't you ashamed? You're a grown person!) — Universal Afghan parenting.

Context

  • Casual conversations with friends
  • Informal settings where profanity is accepted
  • Direct confrontation (use with caution)

Avoid

  • Professional or formal settings
  • Job interviews, meetings, or customer-facing situations

Cultural Context

Used more commonly in everyday Dari than the more formal bi haya. Mothers deploy it constantly. 'Sharm-et nemisha?' (Are you not ashamed?) is probably the most frequently asked rhetorical question in Afghan households. The concept of shame as a social regulator is so central to Afghan life that not feeling it marks you as fundamentally broken.

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xwɑːˈhæreto gɑːˈiːdæm

I fucked your sister

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læʔˈnætiː

damn / goddamn / cursed

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بد کاره (Bad kara)

bæd kɑːˈræ

whore / sex worker (euphemism)

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دیوث (Dayus)

dæˈjuːs

cuck / shameless bastard

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pofˈjuːz

limp dick / useless bastard

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tof bæ ruːˈjet

I spit in your face / you disgust me

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nɑːˈmærd

coward / traitor / backstabber

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الاغ (Olagh)

oˈlɑːɣ

jackass / stubborn fool

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